Today we’re talking about another key for supporting emotional wellness when you’re going through a challenging season. If you’re just joining us, welcome! This is part of a series we started at the beginning of the year with this post: http://www.laurenvandermeer.com/why-wellness-is-so-important/
This key has 3 parts to it:
Part 1 – Adjust your expectations for recovery. You didn’t get sick overnight and, like me, you probably won’t heal overnight. But, little changes made consistently over time always, ALWAYS add up. The body was built to heal itself; it just needs the right tools. Find those and, chances are, you can recover from just about anything.
On the other hand, ultimate healing is reserved for heaven, and we need to rest in God’s sovereignty when the answers He sends aren’t the ones we think we want. In other posts, I’ve shared some of our journey in walking through miscarriages and infertility. I’ve cried a ton of tears over this aspect of the ongoing reality of how my body was compromised. We’ve had to come to grips with where we are and choose to “walk through the doors that are open” rather than beating our heads against the ones that are closed. There are certainly fewer headaches – and heartaches – that way!
Part 2 – Make whatever changes you need to in order to be healthy. For years I made the mistake of thinking the more spiritual thing to do was to put others first, even when I was falling apart. I bought into a very sick lie and was committing suicide by slow degrees all while thinking that was the “godly” and “right” way to live. That’s no way to live. You are important and your health is worth prioritizing. This includes distancing yourself from people, places, and responsibilities that are toxic to you.
I learned this the hard way: working umpteen hours a week for an organization that I now know was founded by a narcissist who promoted spiritually and emotionally abusive teachings while living and working in a 100-year old building filled with mold, mildew, and rust. Getting away was the only way to be healthy.
Please hear me: I’m not telling you to walk away from things just because they are hard. Clearly we don’t all have the option to quit our jobs and move to a tropical island bringing only those we love with us. But, it does mean getting in touch with your limitations and being realistic about where you can and cannot be healthy.
Judith Orloff’s book, “Emotional Freedom” could be a good starting place if this is a hard concept for you. It was a game changer for me! “Present Over Perfect” by Shauna Niequist is another that’s been instrumental in helping me rethink the disconnect between my words and my daily life. But, in order to be the very best YOU that you can be, you need be sure that seeing to your own needs is a priority. You will be much better equipped to meet the needs of those who depend on you if your own needs are being met.
Part 3 – Find the very best resources you can but don’t go overboard. When your body is depleted – and a less-than-healthy emotional state is a symptom of physical as well as emotional depletion – you will likely need to make dietary changes and add nutritional supplements to support your body as it heals. But, don’t just do a hit-and-run on the supplements aisle at the health food store and think that more is better. It’s not.
Don’t make the mistake of adding so many things that your body has to expend more energy processing the supplements than it has to spare. Instead, find a few, wide-spectrum supports and use those for a few months. Give yourself time to experience noticeable healing. Young Living offers a range of nutritional supplements that support overall wellness and they are the best I’ve ever tried. (And, I’ve tried a lot!)
If you need help knowing where to start, contact me and I’d be happy to help. Whatever you do, remember that achieving your optimal wellness is worth the effort – whatever it takes!